"A dumb thing about our minds is that we never look to reference points that make us feel good. We always look to reference points that make us feel crappy."
— @lauriesantos
"A dumb thing about our minds is that we never look to reference points that make us feel good. We always look to reference points that make us feel crappy." — @lauriesantos
The effort to try and feel happy is often precisely the thing that makes us miserable. -Oliver Burkeman
Do you know why they say the grass is always greener on the other side? Because it’s hard to see grass that far away. It isn’t actually greener, it just looks like it because you’re not close enough to see the dead patches and the dog poop. Not only that, but you don’t have to mow that grass. Our own situation always feels worse to us because we’re
... See moreChelsea Harvey Garner • How to Enjoy Your Problems
When we spot apparent perfection, we tend to blame our spectacular bad luck for the mediocrity of our lives, without realizing that we are mistaking an asymmetry of knowledge for an asymmetry of quality: we are failing to see that our partner, home and job are not especially awful, but rather that we know them especially well.