Winnicott on the Qualities of a Healthy Mind and a Healthy Relationship
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Winnicott on the Qualities of a Healthy Mind and a Healthy Relationship
Children become attached to whoever functions as their primary caregiver. But the nature of that attachment—whether it is secure or insecure—makes a huge difference over the course of a child’s life. Secure attachment develops when caregiving includes emotional attunement. Attunement starts at the most subtle physical levels of interaction between
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Donald Winnicott • Article
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