When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

Remember that when other people judge, it’s a projection of an issue they have with themselves, in the same way that your worst judgments of other people are projections of issues you have with yourself. In this way, you can start seeing the origins of your problems less as personal attacks against you and more as, just, you being collateral for so

Discomfort is a beautiful messenger. Unlike its sister signal, pain, discomfort often points us toward where we are most primed for growth, whereas hurt points us toward where we can no longer grow.

The process of getting out of denial is also the process of getting into alignment.

Do you want to arrange your existence so that it would be impossible for anyone to say anything negative about it, or do you want to live with so much joy spilling out from inside you that it renders such opinions meaningless either way?

The truth is that to some people, you are the beauty standard. To others, you are simply overlooked. To some, you are a genius at your craft. To others, you are irrelevant. To some, you are an incredible friend. To others, you are a complete stranger. To some, you are a life partner. To others, you are not someone they’d even date. To some, you are

The truth about perfection is that we only want it so that others might not hurt us for the lack of it.

You probably didn’t form your view of yourself independently. In fact, the way you see yourself is probably just the accumulation of the way you think other people perceive you.

What we envy in others is actually a cue for us to become clearer about what we want to create for ourselves. We aren’t actually trying to say they don’t deserve that, but rather, I want to feel like I deserve that, too. Jealousy reveals our own self-suppression.

When you think back to who you were even just a year ago, you might cringe. While this is an incredibly valid experience to have — and a common one at that—please know that it’s not a sign that you were an awful person before, but that you’re coming into greater self-awareness about who you do and do not want to be.