Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

Marriage isn’t an achievement, the culmination of a love affair, but, rather, the announcement of an intention to live in a new way.

“You know when people always say, when they talk about the people they love most in their lives, ‘I would take a bullet for this person, I would walk through fire for this person’? That’s hurt. You’re saying, ‘I would hurt for this person.’ In a really profound and life-threatening way. ‘I would take a bullet. I would walk through fire.’ Infidelity

you need to figure out how to build sway into a marriage, the way you do into the foundation of a building. She says that just as a tall building or bridge without room to expand or contract, to move in stiff winds, falls down, so a marriage that’s too rigid crumbles at the first tremor.

Even if your choice is perfect, you will have to put all your faith in one person, and someone will put all their faith in you. That’s a lot of pressure.

It is highly improbable that it was put there by escaped lunatics who were for some reason loose in the street. Some person had some reason for thinking it would be a good thing for somebody.”

You can’t plan for grace. These moments are like shooting stars: you see them only if you’re watching, and you see them more clearly when it’s dark.

How terribly hard it is to accept that other people feel what we feel.

Other men—the heartthrob on tour, the Sanskrit chairman—they are so perfect, superhuman, gods of adventure and attention.

“The world of dew is / A world of dew / And yet, and yet.”