Is jealous of attention you pay to others

Keeps you from work/makes you late to work/disrupts your workday/gets

There’s something all our brains are wired to do called the fundamental attribution error. When we mess up and violate someone else’s boundaries, we attribute our actions to the situation at hand (whether this is a reasonable justification or not). When other people mess up and violate our boundaries, we attribute it to them being a fundamentally t

High conflict responses are often the result of people perceiving their lives as out of control and they perceive conflict as their best means of regaining control. It is a boundary-busting behavior, and those of us who are more

When this process gets out of hand and the amygdala is on a hair-trigger and freaks out all the time about things that aren’t actually a threat, that’s a trauma response.

If your past experiences have shown you that having your needs met is always a fight, then you are always primed to fight.

Picks fights so you feel obligated to make things up to them • Always

“No, I’m not comfortable with you borrowing my car” turns into an over-explanation, or even falsehoods, to justify your no. “I’d totally let you use my car, but I have errands to run/the brakes are spongy/etc, etc.” Because we don’t feel comfortable with our own boundary and don’t want to upset the other person or have them think we’re being shitty

If we are compressing a bunch of computer files into a ZIP drive, that’s lossless…meaning all the original data is still there. In the human brain, it is lossy (yes that’s the real word), meaning that some information