Twelve Steps of Adult Children: Steps Workbook

1. I am willing to consider releasing some control in my life. 2) I am willing to call someone when I feel the urge to control another’s thoughts or actions. 3) I believe that real choice comes from the God of my understanding rather than my illusions of control and orderliness. 4) I desire real choice and discernment. 5) I surrender my family to God

Change does not occur until the adult child does the Step work needed to curb the tendency to reach outside ourselves for love and affirmation.

The Higher Power is patient as it seeks to help the adult child find wholeness and integration of a divided self.

The insanity we speak of in Step Two refers to our continued efforts beyond all reason to heal or fix our family of origin through our current relationships.

We insanely knock ourselves out in relationships or in the work place, hoping for affirmation and praise, which we don’t believe we deserve.

1. By attending ACA meetings and working with my sponsor I am being restored to clarity and sanity. 2) I am understanding the effects of addiction and family dysfunction in my adult life today. 3) I am coming to believe that it was insane to think that I caused my parents’ addiction or dysfunction. I was the child. They were the parents. 4) I am not u

We often do not believe we deserve happiness.

Since we grew up with an orientation to fear, shame, and abandonment, we seek out situations that recreate these feelings in ourselves. This is a shocking claim, but many of us can relate to it.

“I humbly ask you to: “Remove my defect of ___________________________.