When you reflect on what somebody has just said to you, be sure to reflect on what it means to them.

Magic is universal. Impossible is impossible, no matter who you are or where you come from. So too with people. Connection is connection, no matter who you are or where you come from. We all dream, we are all curious, and we all yearn to be heard, understood, and valued.

“Be yourself” is common advice for dating, interviews, making friends, giving presentations, networking, and almost any situation in life. It is well-intentioned advice that usually doesn’t help at all, because most of us don’t have a clear understanding of who we are. To be honest, we don’t spend a lot of time thinking about it.

magicians take advantage of your theory of mind in order to fool you (with the larger, more benevolent goal of creating wonder),

What compliment is my favorite to receive?

When you truly understand yourself, you will be able to identify shared beliefs to bond over with others, and fundamental differences to overcome. Connection is not always about agreeing. It is about feeling heard, understood, and valued. Understanding yourself leads to others understanding you, which helps you understand them.

Utilizing Visual Perspective

What is my proudest moment or achievement?

In order to volunteer in a magic show, you have to believe the magician is going to keep you safe.