If you are no closer to having something you’ve been chasing for twenty years, your data is broken. Either you can’t get it, period; you already have it; you don’t really need or want it; or it’s not real.

Saying just the right thing after a considerable, awkward pause is far less effective than saying the wrong thing with perfect timing, I’m telling you.

The unfairness of your current status is unimportant. What matters is, can you do what you need to do? If not, what can you do to achieve what you want to achieve?

To live in regret and change nothing else in your life is to miss the entire point. Each thing should change you, if ever so slightly.

It’s one thing to recognize your hurt. It’s quite healthy, in fact, to see and appreciate your own emotional injuries. Especially because as adults, there is no tall, shadow-casting grown-up sitting just within earshot, ready to run to our aid the moment something hurts us. We have to be that adult for ourselves. Where this healthy self-empathy tur

When multiple bad things happen, it can feel like “life is out to get you.” It’s not. And it’s not a sign, either. What you do is, you keep going. You stop waiting for fairness.

When you’re on a date or in a meeting or wherever it is you need to be seen as confident or wish you had “confidence,” this is the tool to pull from the box and use: be where you are when you’re there, doing whatever it is you’re doing.

If you find that you require willpower to lose weight, you aren’t ready to lose weight. There you have the truth, as much as you may despise hearing it. You don’t want it deeply and completely enough. Something within you is reserved in the matter. This is what you need to solve. You need to know where that voice of dissent is coming from.

The truth behind the truth is this: even if you are a victim, you must never be a victim. Even if you deserve to be one. Because while you wait for somebody to come along and set things right, life has moved forward without you.