This Is How: Proven Aid in Overcoming Shyness, Molestation, Fatness, Spinsterhood, Grief, Disease, Lushery, Decrepitude & More. For Young and Old Alike.

It’s one thing to recognize your hurt. It’s quite healthy, in fact, to see and appreciate your own emotional injuries. Especially because as adults, there is no tall, shadow-casting grown-up sitting just within earshot, ready to run to our aid the moment something hurts us. We have to be that adult for ourselves. Where this healthy self-empathy tur

If willpower is required to achieve this goal, that’s how you know you don’t want it enough on a deep, organic level. Mechanical failure will eventually occur.

I told him that if his father rejected him he should accept this rejection for the terrible and painful and infuriating and devastating blow that it is. He should rage and wail and grieve. And then move clean on forward. I said, “You can’t ever look back and point your finger at this man and blame him for a single thing, not even those things that

Saying just the right thing after a considerable, awkward pause is far less effective than saying the wrong thing with perfect timing, I’m telling you.

When I saw it this way, I realized something. It wasn’t that I wanted to kill myself. What I really wanted was to end my life. I hadn’t been able to make the distinction before really thinking it through. Ending my life didn’t mean I had to die.

Frequently, you hate somebody you love or you hate something you want but are afraid to want. Hatred can be made from feelings of rejection or jealousy—powerful emotions. And you don’t want to fuck up something important in your life, even if you hate it at the moment. Where there is hate, there should be extra care.

The first thing you should do is take a look at your life and then, if necessary, get out of your own way.

All improvements, transformations, achievements, liberations; everything you want to change about yourself and your life; everything you want to make happen, any obstacle you want to overcome, any crisis you must survive—the prerequisite is being able to allow yourself to feel whatever it is you feel and not pretend to feel something you don’t.

In case of emergency, break glass.