This Is How: Proven Aid in Overcoming Shyness, Molestation, Fatness, Spinsterhood, Grief, Disease, Lushery, Decrepitude & More. For Young and Old Alike.

giving yourself permission to feel any emotion without judgment or censorship

You must learn to carefully examine both your feelings and the facts and see if you can find yet another door that leads you deeper still. It’s simple. It’s not easy.

When I saw it this way, I realized something. It wasn’t that I wanted to kill myself. What I really wanted was to end my life. I hadn’t been able to make the distinction before really thinking it through. Ending my life didn’t mean I had to die.

But trying to feel confident will actually make you anxious. Because you will never experience one instant of confidence in your lifetime. Instead of even thinking about confidence, what you need to do is focus on exactly what’s happening in the instant. Not even the whole moment; the instant at hand. Only when you are not mentally elsewhere can yo

Self-pity isn’t the most accurate description for this feeling because it describes only half of it: sad for me, I’m hurt. What’s missing is the other half: and you need to do something about it.

Frequently, you hate somebody you love or you hate something you want but are afraid to want. Hatred can be made from feelings of rejection or jealousy—powerful emotions. And you don’t want to fuck up something important in your life, even if you hate it at the moment. Where there is hate, there should be extra care.

If you find that you require willpower to lose weight, you aren’t ready to lose weight. There you have the truth, as much as you may despise hearing it. You don’t want it deeply and completely enough. Something within you is reserved in the matter. This is what you need to solve. You need to know where that voice of dissent is coming from.

As it happens, we human beings are able to live just fine with many holes of many sizes and shapes. And pleasure, love, compassion, fulfillment—these things do not leak out of holes of any size. So we can be filled with holes and loss and wide expanses of unhealed geography—and we can also be excited by life and in love and content at the exact sam

Except this “if we’re meant to meet, we’ll meet” attitude isn’t truly relaxed. So we’re not going to commend you for it. This attitude is more passive than relaxed. A passivity born of entitlement.