This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle

When we understand that this first stage is the worst, then we can choose to act quickly to relieve that tension. We can choose to be bold, to step into power, and engage our challenges sooner rather than later.

When we break down joy or fulfillment into these essential components, we can ask very specific questions and get very specific answers. This specificity allows us to get proactive and take action now.

“Huh. That’s interesting. I haven’t even considered that. Yeah. You know, it would be cool if he and I just went for a hike and gave ourselves a chance to talk about what we both want and where we want to go. That’s how we got the idea for this business — on a hike.” “I like that. So instead of sinking the ship, this could be a more expansive, co-c

So for the purposes of this book, being dangerous is about cultivating self-awareness, leadership, and the guts to steer directly into the situations that most are trying so hard to avoid. It’s a willingness to occasionally rock the boat in order to live fully during our short time on this planet.

if we could slow down and evaluate each one of these choices, we would start to see the golden thread — the reason, the why, the purpose — that links all of our choices together. No matter what kind of fairy tale we like to tell ourselves about the purpose for our lives, this pattern will tell us the truth about what we’re doing every day and why w

This experiment — which is really just a form of meditation — gives us an opportunity to experience our emotional tension and witness that voice within us that wants to resist it. Because here’s the deal — that voice is living within you, me, all of us 24/7. It’s constantly telling us to avoid discomfort and tension. This is the voice that, when le

In order to avoid this discomfort — this tension — we’re creating a life or relationship or career based on what we think we can get. In order to minimize risk, we play it safe and only see the opportunities we believe are a sure thing. But think about it — how much of our lives can truly be a sure thing? Very, very little. Which means that when we

When we see ourselves as we are, we free up so much of our energy to do the stuff that matters. If we’re going to get stronger, it’s not going to be a product of running away from what scares us. If we’re going to expand, it’s going to be the product of challenging our fears and taking risks.

Unfortunately, this mentality has it backwards. What’s true is that we build excitement, confidence, momentum, and experience by taking action — by learning lessons along the way. These attributes are a product of engaging our challenges. Waiting around for them to show up is a trap. One