The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving and the Joy of Being Loved

but surely the more important question is, What keeps people together?

What keeps people together in dynamic relationships? A common purpose.

1. Relationships are rarely confined to any single level.

The first purpose of every relationship is to help each other become the-best-version-of-ourselves.

The defects we so often despise are actually a wonderful part of our humanity.

The meaning and purpose of marriage is for two people to challenge and encourage each other to become the-best-version-of-themselves, and then to raise their children and

3. It is also important to know that not all relationships deserve to experience all seven levels of intimacy, nor are they meant to.

These are the rules and guidelines that govern the model.

4. You cannot rush intimacy. You cannot force the seven levels; these things don’t happen on a timetable, nor are they rigid.