The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

People who want to help a Nine should realize how important it is not to rob them of whatever choice they do make. I’m not as big a fan of Thai food as Anne is, so halfway to the restaurant I might think, Anne probably doesn’t care one way or another where we go for dinner, whereas I really want Chinese. If I tell her I want to go to Jolly Panda sh

In their developmental years, Sevens heard the wounding message, “You’re on your own. No one’s here to support or take care of you.” In response Sevens said, “I’ll do it if no one else will.”

You can’t lay claim to your life unless you have guts, unless you have access to your animating instinctual fire.

Sevens are spin doctors. Sevens are masters at what’s termed “reframing.” In the blink of an eye they can take a bad situation and recast it in a positive light to skirt feeling the pain you and I would experience if the same thing happened to us. This defense mechanism is unconscious, instantaneous and impressive.

TYPE FOUR: The Romantic.

Average Nines are disconnected from the passion and motivational drive

Like “hungry ghosts,” Sevens cope with their inner tumult by gorging themselves on interesting ideas, acquiring choice material possessions, jamming their calendars with activities and adventures, fantasizing about a future filled with exciting possibilities, and planning their next great escapade.

Stubbornness is the Nine’s go-to passive-aggressive behavior, particularly when they feel like they’re being pressured into agreeing to a plan or doing something they don’t want to do.

“What we don’t know about ourselves can and will hurt us, not to mention others,”