This awareness of being where you are and in the present gives you the constant positive reinforcement of reaching your goal over and over again. However, when your mind is only on the finished product, you not only feel frustrated in every second that you have not met that goal, but you experience anxiety in every "mistake" you make whil

Try this the next time you are faced with doing something you define as not enjoyable or as work. It doesn’t matter if it is mowing the lawn or cleaning up the dinner dishes. If the activity takes a long time, tell yourself you are going to just work on staying present moment and process-oriented for the first half hour. After that you can hate it

Kids basically want a sense of security, lots of free time and experiences that are fun and free from stress. Are adults any different in this regard?

If you are not in control of your thoughts then you are not in control of yourself. Without self-control, you have no real power, regardless of whatever else you accomplish. If you are not aware of the thoughts that you are thinking in each moment, then you are the rider with no reins, with no power over where you are going. You cannot control what

equanimity comes from the art of non-judgment. Non-judgment quiets the internal dialogue of our mind.

When you focus your mind on the present moment, on the process of what you are doing right now, you are always where you want to be and where you should be. All of your energy goes into what you are doing.

Alignment to the Observer brings non-judgment and hence equanimity. How do we become aligned to the Observer? How do we free ourselves from the confines of our ego? Though there are certainly a number of ways to accomplish this, in my opinion, the most effective method for creating this awareness spontaneously and effortlessly is meditation. Throug

You can see how these four components are all part of the same thing. Each one needs and creates the other. When you work slowly, things become simpler. If you want to simplify something, break it down into small parts and work more slowly. Since all of these points take effort to develop and maintain, you will have greater success if you break dow

It’s a funny feeling when you try this. At first, your internal dialogue is howling at you to get going and pick up the pace.