The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence

We have a deep cultural intuition that nice guys finish last, that one must step on others to rise in the ranks, and that acquiring power requires the cold-blooded dispensing of rivals and even allies. But nothing could have been further from the truth.

When the powerful lose their focus on what others think of them—a myopia that readily accompanies power—they all too quickly act in impulsive ways that undermine the greater good, thus losing power.

In every interaction we have the opportunity to practice empathy, to give, to express gratitude, and to tell unifying stories. These practices make for social interactions among strangers, friends, work colleagues, families, and community members that are defined by a commitment to the greater good, where the benefits people provide one another out

Handling the power paradox depends on finding a balance between the gratification of your own desires and your focus on other people.

Power is the medium through which we relate to one another. Power is about making a difference in the world by influencing others.

Power is not only the capacity to influence others; it is also a state of mind.

the group’s interests. POWER COMES FROM EMPOWERING OTHERS IN SOCIAL NETWORKS

GROUPS GIVE POWER TO THOSE WHO ADVANCE THE GREATER GOOD

In fact, gossip is an ancient and universal means by which group members give power to select individuals and keep the powerful in check (Principle 8).