The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence

the group’s interests. POWER COMES FROM EMPOWERING OTHERS IN SOCIAL NETWORKS

In fact, gossip is an ancient and universal means by which group members give power to select individuals and keep the powerful in check (Principle 8).

Groups give us power when we are enthusiastic, speak up, make bold assertions, and express an interest in others. Our capacity to influence rises when we practice kindness, express appreciation, cooperate, and dignify what others say and do. We are more likely to make a difference in the world when we are focused, articulate clear purposes and cour

Our influence, the lasting difference that we make in the world, is ultimately only as good as what others think of us. Having enduring power is a privilege that depends on other people continuing to give it to us.

We resort to gossip to explore potential flaws in a person’s character. Gossip seeks confirmation of character flaws defined by the flouting of principles that enhance the greater good.

GROUPS GIVE POWER TO THOSE WHO ADVANCE THE GREATER GOOD

Power is not only the capacity to influence others; it is also a state of mind.

First, reputations create opportunities for influence. Studies find that if you have a reputation for advancing the greater good, others will direct more resources to you. They will seek you out to form friendships and alliances. They will collaborate with you more cooperatively and effectively.

Handling the power paradox depends on finding a balance between the gratification of your own desires and your focus on other people.