that clarity cannot be rushed.

If there’s a longing or a vision growing within you, or if you have an idea, a project, or work you can see even though you can’t see it, carry on. Walk slowly. Listen closely. And let that candle burn.

First, you need someone who makes decisions the way you want to make them in the areas you want to make them in.

quit something.

A No Mentor is there to help you feel confident about saying no to the things you really don’t want to do anyway or to help you finally discover your strong, brave yes in the midst of fear.

Sometimes I wonder if the reason he seems to move so slowly within and around us is because he knows we need time to let our blacks and whites move toward a more layered gradient of gray.

But if my role is undefined, or if it’s a social situation where I don’t know people well, or if I attend a gathering where someone else in the room shares my role and the lines are unclear, I have a tendency to fly far from my center both during and after. When this scattering happens, it’s often a clue that I’m living out of my false narrative fe

That’s one thing about an intentional no: it can open the door for a life-giving yes. When you focus on what’s missing, it’s hard to see what’s there. Just because things change doesn’t mean you chose wrong in the first place. Just because you’re good at something doesn’t mean you have to do it forever.

Take a quiet moment and ask yourself this question: Is now the time for me to quit something?