When he did express his concerns, they were dismissed as his “male midlife crisis.” Essentially, though, women’s liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search—for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women’s liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an id

If you dare be more than a reader—but a reader who makes a difference—know that you will be distorted and demonized. You will have to confront bureaucracies that have tried to stuff the round peg of gender relations into the square hole of oppressor vs. oppressed that was appropriate for slavery, but not for families. You will be guiding an “evolut

Was a hero a servant? Yes. The very word “hero” comes from the Greek ser-ow, from which comes our word “servant,” as well as “slave” and “protector.”6 A hero was basically a slave whose purpose was to serve and protect. To protect the community in general, women and children in particular. In exchange, heroes received the respect and love of those

It would be hard to find a single example in history in which a group that cast more than 50 percent of the vote got away with calling itself the victim. Or an example of an oppressed group which chooses to vote for their “oppressors” more than it chooses to have its own members take responsibility for running. Women are the only minority group tha

Our sons’ far greater likelihood to suffer from ADHD, VGA (video game addiction), and addiction to video porn; and our sons being two to three years behind our daughters in two of the greatest predictors of success—reading and writing (to say nothing of emotional intelligence)—have led to our sons being more medicated and less educated.

Is the seven-year gap biological? If it is, it wouldn’t have been just a one-year gap in 1920. If men lived seven years longer than women, feminists would have helped us understand that life expectancy was the best measure of who had the power. And they would be right. Power is the ability to control one’s life. Death tends to reduce control. Life

Have we been misled by feminists? Yes. Is it feminists’ fault? No. Why not? Men have not spoken up. Simply stated, women cannot hear what men do not say. (Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say became the title of my next book—in 1999.) Now men must take responsibility to say what they want—to turn a “War in Which Only One Side Shows Up” into a “Dialo

In this book, I define power as having control over one’s own life. The male obligation to earn more money than a woman before she would love him was not control over his life; in Stage I, neither sex had control over her or his life. And, as we saw in the opening chapter, both sexes had what was the traditional definition of power (influence over

For our daughters, when the prosperity of industrialized countries allowed for the option of divorces in the ‘60’s and 70’s, women became liberated from marriage and motherhood as the sole definition of feminine purpose. Fortunately, feminism pro-actively filled women’s “purpose void” with visions of careers, liberation and equality. A woman’s new