The Myth of Male Power

In the past, men’s careers-as-purpose lasted a lifetime. In the future, careers will rarely last a lifetime; it is preparing our son to be a dad that will give him a sense of purpose for a lifetime.

Have we been misled by feminists? Yes. Is it feminists’ fault? No. Why not? Men have not spoken up. Simply stated, women cannot hear what men do not say. (Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say became the title of my next book—in 1999.) Now men must take responsibility to say what they want—to turn a “War in Which Only One Side Shows Up” into a “Dialo

It would be hard to find a single example in history in which a group that cast more than 50 percent of the vote got away with calling itself the victim. Or an example of an oppressed group which chooses to vote for their “oppressors” more than it chooses to have its own members take responsibility for running. Women are the only minority group tha

Overall, women control consumer spending by a wide margin in virtually every consumer category.17 With spending power comes other forms of power. Women’s control over spending gives them control over TV programs because TV is dependent on sponsors. When this is combined with the fact that women watch more TV in every time slot,18 shows can’t afford

When he did express his concerns, they were dismissed as his “male midlife crisis.” Essentially, though, women’s liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search—for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women’s liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an id

Just because a man feels powerless does not mean a woman feels powerful. And just because a woman—or man—is perceived by others to have power, does not mean she or he feels powerful inside of themselves. This is a crucial message of this book because a core flaw of feminism was the assumption that because a woman felt powerless that the man must fe

Was a hero a servant? Yes. The very word “hero” comes from the Greek ser-ow, from which comes our word “servant,” as well as “slave” and “protector.”6 A hero was basically a slave whose purpose was to serve and protect. To protect the community in general, women and children in particular. In exchange, heroes received the respect and love of those

They see their sex being identified as the discriminators, rapists, date rapists, deadbeat dads, wife-batterers, sexual harassers, serial killers, greedy “banksters,” and unfaithful cheaters. It can feel as if they are at the top, bottom and middle of women’s “enemy list.”

Divorces did not change the pressure on men to focus on income in order to receive women’s love. Millions of divorced men took on five payments rarely assessed to women: Child support Mortgage payments on a home no longer lived in Apartment rental Alimony Dating Men faced more of the same old pressure to earn—just intensified. So instead of changin