The Lonely City: Adventures in the Art of Being Alone

being alone isn’t what makes you feel lonely. Loneliness is having other people and society and community around you, and having a deep sense of being excluded from them. To feel lonely, we need other people.

“It’s such a big city,” Kohn tells me. “You live alone, you do things alone. People go to work, come home, and just want to relax...you’re not really meeting as many people as you’d like.”