the only way to change negative thinking begins with acknowledging that you have no control over it.

I formally declare that I cannot control my negative thoughts, and I commit to letting go of trying to control them. I commit to letting go of trying to change the past. I commit to letting go of worrying about the future. I commit to letting go of trying to control other people. I commit to channeling my precious energy into positive actions I can

Awareness is important; criticism is absolutely unnecessary.

I’m only interested in relationships where both people tell the truth, take responsibility for what’s going on with them instead of blaming, and are passionately committed to their creative development.

When we leave a situation incomplete, nature will find a way to keep reminding us of the incompletion. Nature seeks completion and will propel us to great lengths to get it.

I discovered that every time I found myself explaining and justifying something, I could trace that “something” back to an incompletion.

when we’re scared, the way we breathe looks and feels different from when we’re angry or sad. You can check this out for yourself. Notice that when you get scared, your belly muscles tighten and your breath shifts up higher in your chest.

Gay’s breathing video (ten minutes): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tf9fCWYbOU0

I added another life lesson to my growing stack: we always attract unconsciously the very things we complain about.