The Friendship Theory of Everything

People choose places; places shape people; people go on to shape other people. We should be thoughtful about the kind of transformation we opt into.

There is no such thing as closeness without friction.

in choosing who you spend time with you choose who you are.

It’s about how it’s critical to have people in your life who love you and see you when you’re fun and sparkly and on top of the world, but also love you when you’re stagnant and petulant and self-sabotaging and letting them down. It’s about how that kind of love makes you believe in other kinds of love. It’s about how the essential texture of life ... See more

romantic relationships/best friends/therapists are critical for the same reason, where this person can become the primary person who explains you to *you*, the supplement to your internal monologue, and can rewire your understanding of yourself for way better or for way worse.

People choose places; places shape people; people go on to shape other people. We should be thoughtful about the kind of transformation we opt into.