You know stuff that other people don’t know. And when you know stuff that other people do not, you’re in a position to be of service. Ideally, you want to be of service to others in a way that feeds your spirit.

If you’re fully showing up for life, you won’t be able to tell the difference between selflessness and self-serving because it feels so good to give…or is it receiving?

“What do I do? I’m a talent recruiter by day and Kundalini yoga teacher by night. Someday I’ll stop living a double life, but right now, I’m, you know, digging for my dream gig. Mostly, I’m interested in wellness and modern art.” No complaining. Sincerely searching. Impressive.

He puts it this way: “A strength is what you do that makes you feel strengthened.” Boom. So it’s not necessarily what you’re good at or what you’re capable of—it’s what feels amazing when you do it. Ergo, a weakness is the stuff you do that makes you feel weakened. Deceptively simple. Revolutionary.

You’ll begin to believe that if it’s this hard for so many of us, for so long, then that must just be the way it is. And so you make adjustments to your desires. You amend your hopes. You repeatedly ignore your hunger.

When being real is your priority, the various parts of your life start to groove. Your career will begin to reflect your true passion; your living room will match your values; your friends will fit your soul; and your wealth—of which there are many definitions—will start to measure up with your notion of freedom. Sometimes the courage to be true to

“a bug called Jim.”

I learned what it meant to pick my battles, and I couldn’t bear to battle with my instincts anymore.

But what we might critique as procrastination can actually be a misdiagnosis for instinct.