The Emotionally Unavailable Man

To face the storm you must learn to respond to it rather than react to it.

Emotionally unavailable men were taught as children that there is NO WAY to negotiate the storm. Emotionally unavailable men were taught that they don’t have what it takes to make things different.

If a person is not in touch with his emotional self, he cannot meet emotional needs of others.

Either way, awakening is necessary. Why? Because a lot of the programming you got as a child was inaccurate. They lied to you. They gave you wrong data. It really wasn’t your job

She is only yelling to try to get the story to come out like it’s supposed to. She hates being treated like something big and bad because she’s still really just that little girl wanting to be taken care of by her partner.

We are programmed as children to act and feel a certain way toward certain stimuli. Those programs keep running without interruption until what I call our moment of awakening. Before that, we’re all just asleep letting our programming run our lives

he will be strong, smart, romantic and will take care of their every princess need and desire.

And, by the way, no needs of his own.

Real power comes from real choice.