The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
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The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“borrowing an ego.” She was reaching out in a moment of need and letting someone else’s frontal lobe do the work. We all need to do that sometimes, but if we externalize our distress too much, we don’t learn to handle bad days on our own.
Meg Jay • The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
If building a career is like spending twelve hours at the blackjack table—seeing the cards as you make your decisions, playing each hand with current winnings in mind, having a new opportunity to take a chance or play it safe with every card dealt—then choosing a mate is like walking over to the roulette wheel and putting all your chips on red 32.
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High school and our twenties are not only the time when we have our most self-defining experiences, study after study shows they are also the time when we have our most self-defining memories. Adolescence is a time of many firsts, including our first attempt to form life stories. As we become capable of—and interested in—abstract thought, we start
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adult life is built not out of eating, praying, and loving but out of person, place, and thing: who we are with, where we live, and what we do for a living.
Meg Jay • The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
They were fooled into thinking they were compatible because they had many plain-sight commonalities. They felt confused as their dissimilar personalities continually clashed. Not sure what to make of this, each hoped the other might change. Both imagined that they might become more similar the longer they were together, but the evidence for persona
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I once had a fortune cookie that read A WISE MAN MAKES HIS OWN LUCK. Perhaps the single best thing we can do to make our own luck in our twenties is say yes to our weak ties or give them a reason to say yes to us.
Meg Jay • The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
Weak ties are like bridges you cannot see all the way across, so there is no telling where they might lead.
Meg Jay • The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
crisis and capital can—and
Meg Jay • The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
To accept life in its disjointed pieces is an adult experience of freedom, but still these pieces must lodge and embed themselves somewhere, hopefully in a place that allows them to grow and endure. —Richard Sennett, sociologist