The Courage To Be Disliked: How to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness

The fundamental change we need is a shift from a feeling- centered approach to decisions to a purpose- centered approach. The question isn’t “What do I feel like doing?” but, rather, “what needs to be done?” All the time management systems in the world won’t really help us very much until we’ve developed the capacity to make decisions based on purp

So in Adlerian psychology, we do not think about past “causes” but rather about present “goals.” YOUTH: Present goals? PHILOSOPHER: Your friend is insecure, so he can’t go out. Think about it the other way around. He doesn’t want to go out, so he’s creating a state of anxiety. YOUTH: Huh? PHILOSOPHER: Think about it this way. Your friend had the go

This is a concept that runs to the very root of Adlerian psychology. If all interpersonal relationships were gone from this world, which is to say if one were alone in the universe and all other people were gone, all manner of problems would disappear.