
The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help

Hundreds of thousands of people had enjoyed Walt’s work on YouTube, but he hadn’t cultivated a long-term relationship with them, he hadn’t yet built a bridge of exchange between himself and his potential supporters.
Amanda Palmer • The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
Lewis Hyde published a beautiful dot-connecting book in 1983 called The Gift, which tackles the elusive subject of what Hyde calls “the commerce of the creative spirit.”
Amanda Palmer • The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
The connection underneath was everything.
Amanda Palmer • The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
The art of asking can be learned, studied, perfected. The masters of asking, like the masters of painting and music, know that the field of asking is fundamentally improvisational. It thrives not in the creation of rules and etiquette but in the smashing of that etiquette.
Amanda Palmer • The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
Minimal DIY doesn’t rely on trust; it relies on ingenuity. Maximal DIY relies on trust and ingenuity. You have to ask with enough grace and creativity to elicit a response, and you also have to trust the people you’re asking not to ruin your recording session, not to poison your food, not to bludgeon you with a hammer as you sit in their passenger
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In my head, the critics and the crowd were one and the same.
Amanda Palmer • The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
You can give them understanding. Just tell the story. Tell it all. They’ll understand. He smiled at me. You’ll be fine.
Amanda Palmer • The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
My theory: one of the biggest reasons people usually want to help an artist is because they really want…to help an artist. Not get a fancy beer cozy. If they make the decision to help, they will help at the level at which they are able, no matter what token, flower, or simple thank-you awaits them at the other end.
Amanda Palmer • The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
The opposite of “Indian giver” would be something like “white man keeper”…that is, a person whose instinct is to remove property from circulation…The Indian giver (or the original one, at any rate) understood a cardinal property of the gift: whatever we have been given is supposed to be given away again, not kept…The only essential is this: The gif
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