addition to leading artful lovemaking into more energetic agility for both of you, it’s beneficial to let go of any notion of completion in sex altogether. Let go of orgasm being the end-all goal for either of you. Make connection, pleasure, depth, and love your intention—not just getting off. The irony here is that when all the pressure is removed

Both of these forms of closure, long-term and short-term, can be undone in sexual practice. You can actually use sex to de-ice the frozen heart.

Enlightening your sex involves cultivating the capacity to sustain high energy over long periods of time while remaining relaxed and open. It