Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation

addition to leading artful lovemaking into more energetic agility for both of you, it’s beneficial to let go of any notion of completion in sex altogether. Let go of orgasm being the end-all goal for either of you. Make connection, pleasure, depth, and love your intention—not just getting off. The irony here is that when all the pressure is removed

energy builds in your genitals during sex, exhale and contract the floor of your pelvis, pulling upward slightly, as if you were trying to stop yourself from urinating. Feel or imagine your sexual energy moving up along the line of your spine into your head as you exhale. Then, as you inhale, draw the energy down the front of your body, so that you

Both of these forms of closure, long-term and short-term, can be undone in sexual practice. You can actually use sex to de-ice the frozen heart.