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Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth)
Your Authentic Voice, somewhere in there, knows all about you. In contrast to the black-and-white simplicity of the Social Survival Mammoth, your Authentic Voice is complex, sometimes hazy, constantly evolving, and unafraid. Your AV has its own, nuanced moral code, formed by experience, reflection, and its own personal take on compassion and integr... See more
end meta • Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth)
Because of this, humans evolved an over-the-top obsession with what others thought of them—a craving for social approval and admiration, and a paralyzing fear of being disliked. Let’s call that obsession a human’s Social Survival Mammoth.
end meta • Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth)
Your AV is also someone the mammoth tends to ignore entirely. A strong opinion from a confident person in the outside world? The mammoth is all ears. But a passionate plea from your AV is largely dismissed until someone else validates it.
end meta • Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth)
With a weakened mammoth, it becomes possible to begin standing up for who you are and even making some bold changes—and when you watch those changes turn out well for you with few negative consequences and no regrets, it reinforces the epiphany and an empowered AV becomes a habit. Your mammoth has now lost its ability to pull the strings, and it’s ... See more
end meta • Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth)
But in today’s large, complex world of varying cultures and personalities and opportunities and options, losing touch with your AV is dangerous. When you don’t know who you are, the only decision-making mechanism you’re left with is the crude and outdated needs and emotions of your mammoth. When it comes to the most personal questions, instead of d... See more
end meta • Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth)
1) Get to know your Authentic Voice
end meta • Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth)
The most obvious way to find the mammoth is to figure out where your fear is—where are you most susceptible to shame or embarrassment?
end meta • Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth)
Eventually, a mammoth-run person can lose touch with their AV entirely.
end meta • Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think (Taming the Mammoth)
And while the mammoth looks only to the outside world in its decision-making process, your Authentic Voice uses the outside world to learn and gather information, but when it’s time for a decision, it has all the tools it needs right there in the core of your brain.