There is a spot somewhere along the top ridge of the clit where you can feel a slight electrical current, like when you rub your tongue over a copper wire. Keep moving your tongue over that spot. Fuck her there, digging deeply as if you were burrowing inside her. Feel how the more attention you give it, the more the spot expands until it’s pulsing

The One-Stroke OM is just that: one fifteen-minute stroke from the bottom of her clit to the top and back down again.

Slow Sex simplifies things. It throws out all expectation about what her orgasm should look like

Staying open and aware—saying yes—is the key to getting off on any stroke, whether in OM or in life. Saying yes is the key to the freedom we were just talking about. When we let go of our preference for any one particular experience, suddenly a whole world of opportunity presents itself. We are not only more able to enjoy the upstrokes, but we can

Studies have shown that during orgasm, a man’s brain lights up mainly in the pleasure centers. But when a woman enters an orgasmic state, several major areas of her brain go silent—particularly those involved with inhibition, appropriateness, and evaluating her environment for possible threats. Because of this phenomenon, a sense of safety is an ab

It’s like people who say they can’t do yoga because they aren’t flexible enough, or people who say they can’t meditate because their mind keeps wandering.

It makes room for everyone and every possibility.

It nourishes not the part of us that wants a smashing finale, but the part of us that wants insight, ignition, and intimacy.

If you want a lifelong orgasm, you have to let go of the comfort of being told what to do by the outside world and start looking for direction within. You have to start charting your own course, using your own compass. That compass is your own desire.