Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

In the flow of the day’s words, noises, shouts, and various utterances, this polite exchange stands out for children like a nursery rhyme, secure and familiar. It is also a code. In its regularity, politeness affirms and reaffirms our connection; the way we treat each other.

But children also need containers for the truth, for situations that may be difficult for them to understand.

In our hurry to have our children walk, or in our anxiousness to serve them, we may cause them to skip stages essential for neural development. Instead, when we let the process happen—without trying to hurry or help it along—we are allowing the development of our child’s brains and bodies.

As choices are reduced, pressure is lifted. A child has the time and freedom to have their own thoughts. They can find the ease to slowly forge an identity, an identity that is more than the sum of their choices, preferences, or purchases.

When we talk over and under and around a child—when we talk too much—there’s less space for their thoughts, for what they have to say. A child’s curiosity and creativity are stifled when they believe that something is not “real” unless, or until, you talk about it.

When they’re not overwhelmed with so many toys, kids can more fully engage with the ones that they have. And when the toy is simpler, children can bring more of themselves to that engagement.

“Taylor, time to get in the car and buckle up. Shut that door, please.” “I can’t drive with distractions.

what kids need to “let go” into sleep is a greater feeling of connectedness.

The “corporate parent” holds a metaphorical image of their family as a corporation, or a corporate team.