Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't
John Townsendamazon.com
Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't
Having your own bad, immature, and broken parts open to the scrutiny of that person Solving conflict in ways that do not involve leaving the relationship Staying in the relationship even if the other person changes for the worse Being called to sacrifice many individual preferences for the sake of the relationship
John Townsend • Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships
Seek people who love and give generously, who have the strength to suffer without causing damage. (Only strong people are safe people, the measure of strength being not the absence of vulnerability — and “weakness” is just a judgment term for vulnerability — but the ability to carry one’s vulnerability with such self-awareness and valor so as not t... See more
Special Edition: 18 Life-Learnings from 18 Years of The Marginalian
Use experienced, spiritually mature people for support. Avoid those who idealize you as the innocent victim and see him as nothing but a creep. These sorts of friends can bolster your confidence, but do little to help you be objective and neutral. They tend to divide relationships and can often instill a sense of entitled arrogance in others which
... See moreJohn Townsend • Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships
“You know,” I said, “I’m asking you about friendships, and you’re answering about ministries. They’re not the same thing.” She had never considered the difference. Her concept of friendship was to find people with needs and throw herself into a relationship with them. She didn’t know how to ask for things for herself.