Relationships are coevolutionary loops

It is rare for people to come into themselves if no one is excited and curious about their core, their potential. We need someone who gives us space to unfold.

The first month we spent in the house, my grandfather would walk straight in every day without knocking. After a month, he settled for the cellar. We sat in the kitchen and heard him go around down there, moving tools about. Later still, we saw him lurk on the path down the hill, watching the house from afar. He stopped a little further up the hill

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It was the first time Johanna and I had lived together, so we spent much time talking about how to go about our lives.

She wanted to live frugally, she wanted to have the autonomy to pursue her interests without thinking about money, and this meant she was going somewhere no one wanted to live so rent was cheap.

I kept a notebook where I jotted down things I wanted to google and twice a week I’d go down to the local library, look at the list, and say, why on earth did I want to know Justin Bieber’s net worth? And then I’d go home again, to read and write, listen and talk.