Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth

Aren’t we then quite foolish to maintain the tension? Because with this tense/no control situation, we have two problems: 1. tension/stress and 2. no control over life. In a no tension/no control situation, we would have only one problem: no control over life which can be experienced as frightening or freedom.

the psychotherapist Bruce Tift, ‘we don’t have to consciously participate in what it’s like to feel claustrophobic, imprisoned, powerless, and constrained by reality’.12 This struggle against the distressing constraints of reality is what some old-school psychoanalysts call ‘neurosis’, and it takes countless forms, from workaholism and commitment-p