A realist accepts the present as it is and rolls with it to improve the next moment. A perfectionist rejects the present as not being good enough and gets stuck in a state of perfectionistic dissatisfaction.

perfectionism, as the central feature of OCPD, is also characterized by such traits as excessive concern with details, an extreme devotion to work and productivity (at the expense of leisure), excessive conscientiousness, scrupulousness, thriftiness, inflexibility and rigidity in the issues of morality and ethics, reluctance to delegate tasks, and

You’ve put into this game far more than you’ve gotten out of it. It’s time to toy with the idea that perfection is not only attainable but inevitable, with the idea that you are always doing your best at any given point in time and that is enough. Enjoy!

As a perfectionist, you are programmed to perceive differences more than similarities. This “difference filter” tends to first bring into focus how this circle is not quite perfect or how it’s off center.

constantly strive to meet everyone’s expectations and you essentially live in fear of others’ disapproval of you.

In being self-driven, you are driven by a self that you didn’t actually program.

Preaching perfectionism for its own sake is akin to idealistic hazing designed to override the fundamentals of human motivation and to override free will.

You’ve come to equate the meaning of success with “not-failure” or “un-failure.” You are either a failure or a not-failure. If that’s the meaning you assigned to the notion of success, it’s no wonder you never really feel successful. You’re only someone who once again didn’t fail. So, of course there’s never any reason to celebrate or allow yoursel

perfectionism is mostly a result of learning, programming, and conditioning. I see it as an ingenious adaptation to a hypercritical, high-pressure, invalidating environment, a psychological self-defense strategy that unfortunately creates more problems than