Own Your Greatness: Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt, and Succeed in Life
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Own Your Greatness: Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt, and Succeed in Life
Looking for approval from others, having trouble expressing your own opinions, and feeling insecure of your own accomplishments are natural developments from these conditions.
Not understanding their worth (i.e., salary comps) in the marketplace Fear of negotiating Lack of motivation to leave stagnating roles Reluctance to vie for promotion Avoidance of high-visibility stretch assignments Difficulty networking and communicating their accomplishments to others Trouble envisioning their long-term career future
WAYS TO RELEASE PERFECTIONISM Focus on “good enough” not perfect. Recognize that perfectionism hurts you and those around you. Be proud and accepting of your humanity. Only compare yourself to you. Find comfort in choosing your own path. Learn to accept the beauty of compromise. Choose standards that feel reasonable. Appreciate mistakes provide opp
... See moreImpostor syndrome is the experience of constantly feeling like a fraud, downplaying one’s accomplishments, and always being concerned about being exposed as incompetent or incapable. As a result, people with impostor syndrome engage in either overworking or self-sabotage.
Academic or professional achievement is highly valued in your family.
four particular hallmarks of impostor syndrome in the women they studied: 1) diligence and hard work; 2) intellectual inauthenticity; 3) charm and perceptiveness; 4) seeking mentorship for the purpose of external validation.
On the other hand, the person with impostor syndrome was considered the sensitive or social/emotionally competent family member.
The children are required to fulfill their parent(s)’ needs and wishes, and this is often controlled by validation only around domains that the parent(s) finds worthy. The child is molded to meet the parent(s)’ expectations. When the child fails to meet these expectations, there are significant consequences, which feel like the loss of the parent(s
... See moreFor example, you may be recruited to support the care of an adult sibling, even though this sibling may be fully capable of caring for themselves.