No More Mr. Nice Guy

1. I know what makes people grow more reliably than anything else. It is: taking on a difficult project with some amount of public accountability. This can be large or small: a lecture series, a business, a blog, a house, a child, etc.


2. It’s strange, but I know that it’s common to resist positive emotions, as well as negative ones. Ask yours

No longer acting out her mother’s unhealthy modeling, or in reaction to what she thought others wanted or expected from her, she could start making choices that would allow her to create the kinds of relationships that she would actually want to be in. Immediately, she pledged to start showing up differently. To stay aware of her feelings, needs, a

Being nice creates a terrible foundation for any ongoing relationship. Once you start trying to win a woman’s approval by being nice, the pattern never ends. Even if you end up in a relationship with a woman, you have created a dynamic of trying to please her and make her happy (while trying to keep her from leaving you). This is a recipe for disas

Living in fear of one’s relationships falling apart is an unfree way to live, in which one is living for other people.