People with the growth mindset know that it takes time for potential to flower.

You reflect on your past experiences, being able to get through it.”

You know, we never outgrow our sensitivity to these messages.

I still have an irresistible urge to defend myself and assign blame when something in a relationship goes wrong.

seek constructive criticism.

The fixed mindset, plus stereotyping, plus women’s trust in other people’s assessments of them: All of these contribute to the gender gap in math and science.

We are telling them that what we prize are speed and perfection. Speed and perfection are the enemy of difficult learning:

John Zenger and Joseph Folkman point out that most people, when they first become managers, enter a period of great learning. They get lots of training and coaching, they are open to ideas, and they think long and hard about how to do their jobs.

you don’t always need confidence. What I mean is that even when you think you’re not good at something, you can still plunge into it wholeheartedly and stick to it.