Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: Practical Guide for Improving Communication

men mistakenly offer solutions and invalidate feelings while women offer unsolicited advice and direction.

When the student is ready the teacher appears. When the question is asked then the answer is heard.

Most important, however, a woman needs to recognize her boundaries of what she can give without resenting her partner. Instead of expecting her partner to even the score, she needs to keep it even by regulating how much she gives.

He was amazed at how much happier his wife was when he finally learned to listen.

Generally speaking, when a woman offers unsolicited advice or tries to “help” a man, she has no idea of how critical and unloving she may sound to him. Even though her intent is loving, her suggestions do offend and hurt.

A Venusian feels good about herself when she has loving friends with whom to share her feelings and problems.

Instead of being goal oriented, women are relationship oriented;

Martians pride themselves in doing things all by themselves. Autonomy is a symbol of efficiency, power, and competence.

Men need to remember that when women seem upset and talk about problems is not the time to offer solutions; instead she needs to be heard, and gradually she will feel better on her own. She does not need to be fixed.