Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

Therapy is hard work—and not just for the therapist. That’s because the responsibility for change lies squarely with the patient. If you expect an hour of sympathetic head-nodding, you’ve come to the wrong place. Therapists will be supportive, but our support is for your growth, not for your low opinion of your partner. (Our role is to understand y

In the early sessions, it’s always more important for patients to feel heard and understood than it is for them to gain any insight or make any changes.

Research shows that people tend to remember experiences based on how they end, and termination is a powerful phase in therapy because it gives them the experience of a positive conclusion in what might have been a lifetime of negative, unresolved, or empty endings.

himself. Suicide often leaves the survivors with an unsolved mystery: Why? What could have been done to prevent this? Meanwhile, Samantha was always looking for problems in her relationships, searching for issues that would inevitably provide her with a reason

Every person you’ve been close to lives on somewhere inside you. Your past lovers, your parents, your friends, people both alive and dead (symbolically or literally)—all of them evoke memories, conscious or not. Often they inform how you relate to yourself and others. Sometimes you have conversations with them in your head; sometimes they speak to

Admittedly, there’s also banter on these Friday afternoons—often along with food and wine.

Study after study shows that the most important factor in the success of your treatment is your relationship with the therapist, your experience of “feeling felt.” This matters more than the therapist’s training, the kind of therapy they do, or what type of problem you have.

People often mistake numbness for nothingness, but numbness isn’t the absence of feelings; it’s a response to being

“The nature of life is change and the nature of people is to resist change.”