Make It Happen: Live your best life

With all those actions, the ball has started to roll. And the next thing will happen, and then the next. And it’s so much easier to go with the flow than to stop and start again.

If you want to change your life because you hate yourself, your habits, your body, your weight, your job, your lack of motivation, anything, it’s going to be an uphill battle, I can tell you that now. It’s always far harder to battle negativities than to forge positively forward. So if you reframe your ambitions in terms of wanting something better

Excuses are terribly seductive. They promise an end to hard work, failure and embarrassment. It’s important, however, to recognise that most people’s excuses come from a deep-seated fear of failure.

To me, ‘no’ might just mean I haven’t asked the right question, or asked it at the right time, or in the right way.

If someone pretends to be perfect, how on earth can you ever relate to them?

What’s the real tragedy if you started a computer course one evening a week and then discovered you were bored silly? At least you’ve learnt the basics and now you’ll be clearer about what you might really like to study next time.

So how do you build self-belief? For those who’ve been criticising themselves for a long time, it takes a bit of work to start turning that around. But it’s worth the effort. Have you ever noticed how some people who are not particularly talented or smart have so much confidence they just power through life, apparently without experiencing a moment

Recognise that you’re basically a good person, and while you might make some mistakes, make sure you learn from them and choose to change your behaviour as a result. Make yourself even better.

It’s often more fun studying with a friend, so why not sign up for a course that might help you advance in your job, or have a different career,