Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence

Your biology is your roots; your consciousness is your flowering.

Life is always a choice. If you don’t love, that does not mean that you can simply remain in that not-loving state. No, you will hate. And the person who hates himself becomes destructive. The person who hates himself will hate everybody else—he will be so angry and violent and continuously in rage. The person who hates himself, how can he hope tha

whatsoever you are doing, you are not doing it. It is being done through you by natural, unconscious forces, or by God.

Love arises out of aloneness. Aloneness makes you overfull, love receives your gifts. Love empties you so that you can become full again. Whenever you are emptied by love, aloneness is there to nourish you, to integrate you.

Attachment is one of the ugliest things. And when I say ugliest, I do not mean only religiously, I mean aesthetically, also. When you are attached, you have lost your aloneness; you have lost everything. Just to feel good that someone needs you and someone is with you, you have lost everything—you have lost yourself.

I have heard about one happy marriage . . . A hillbilly farmer decided it was time to get married, so he saddled his mule and set off for the city to find a wife. In time, he met a woman and they were married. So they both climbed up on the mule and started back for the farm. After a while, the mule balked and refused to move. The farmer got down,

It is an ancient battle, and foolish, utterly foolish, so please beware: Don’t create any battle between sex and silence. If you create a battle, your sex will be ugly, sick, and your silence will be dull and dead. Let sex and silence meet and merge. In fact the greatest moments of silence are those which are followed by love, great love, peaks of

Gautama Buddha emphasized one single word continually for forty-two years, morning and evening; the word is sammasati—it means “right remembering.” You remember many things—you can become an Encyclopedia Britannica; your mind is capable of remembering all the libraries of the world—but that is not the right remembering. There is only one right reme

So whenever you are halfhearted in anything, it lingers longer. If you are sitting at your table and eating, and if you eat only halfheartedly and your hunger remains, then you will continue to think about food for the whole day. You can try fasting and you will see: You will continuously think about food.