Love 2.0: Finding Happiness and Health in Moments of Connection

If I take my body’s perspective on love seriously, it means that right now—at this very moment in which I’m crafting this sentence—I do not love my husband.

Love is that micro-moment of warmth and connection that you share with another living being.

Redefining love as those micro-moments of positivity resonance you can share with nearly anyone breaks open extraordinary opportunities.

Love allows you to really see another person, holistically, with care, concern, and compassion.

When positivity resonance moves between you and another, for instance, the two of you begin to mirror each other’s postures and gestures, and even finish each other’s sentences.

I need to ask you to disengage from some of your most cherished beliefs about love as well: the notions that love is exclusive, lasting, and unconditional.

love is connection.

Love is not sexual desire or the blood-ties of kinship. Nor is it a special bond or commitment.

The first tool for experiencing more moments of love is one that we discovered completely by chance. It entails simply reflecting, at the end of each day, on the three longest social interactions you’ve had that day, and asking yourself how “connected” and “in tune” you felt with the people with whom you spent your time.