Leading the Life You Want: Skills for Integrating Work and Life

Social scientists call such events “crucible experiences” and see them as part of a leader’s “emotional journey line.”

It is this tension that, if we can reframe it and resolve it, leads to resilience.

Greitens constructively applied the principle of taking small steps that are under your control as you progress toward a big, compelling goal; focusing on results while being creative about the means to achieve them.

What am I not doing that I should be doing? Consider isolating yourself for some or all of that time; try being alone, with no online connectivity. Think of this as an investment in your personal research and development, from which you can expect to reap long-term rewards.

a plan for enlisting their help with something that matters to you. Make sure that this plan explains how their assistance will be mutually beneficial—good for them and for you.

Tierney’s story—and the lesson he wanted his listeners to take away—was that a fulfilling life does not consist of three separate serial phases in which you learn, then you earn, and then you serve.

Reflecting on the meaning of what you do helps you better appreciate the ways your actions are evidence of living your values.

List the names of the three to five people (individuals or groups) who matter most to you in each domain of your life—in your work or career, in your home or family, and in the community or society. Write a sentence about why each one of these people or groups is important to your future and why it’s in their interest to aid you.

it isn’t always a matter of sacrificing one part for another.