Improve Your Conversations: Think on Your Feet, Witty Banter, and Always Know What to Say with Improv Comedy Techniques (2nd Edition) (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 13)

make it your goal to first and foremost create a playful and fun atmosphere within your conversations, avoiding interview mode and small talk,

You’re looking for these breadcrumbs that others want you to pick up on so they can talk about what they want.

“So, I guess that’s where the exit is.” “You must be really great at tennis.” “Sounds like it wasn’t a very fun party.” “You must have hated that.” “I bet you’re a big foodie.”

The underlying emotional content is one of subtle rejection, as though the person has simply thrown the baton you passed them on the ground. Not only does this kill the flow, it also puts a lot of responsibility on the other person to try and think of something else that will stick.

“What do you like to do for fun?” is much better phrased as, “Do you like to play music for fun? What about hiking or writing?”

Rule of Improv Comedy: Provide specific details for people to relate to, react to, and run with.

People generally talk about things for a specific reason. If you can hear between the lines and find out what that reason is, you can have deeper conversations with others that are enjoyable for both of you.

Only a small minority of people will outright state how they feel in a conversation or discussion.

Being good to talk to is more about willingness to listen, empathy, and playfulness.