i asked @aweissman earlier this week “what is one framework you wish young people would stop using for decision-making?” he shared with me the concept of “ghosts and ancestors” which i havent been able to stop thinking about it he also wrote about it in 2019
But I'm inclined to think that we're all ghosts . . . it's not only the things that we've inherited from our fathers and mothers that live on in us, but all sorts of old dead ideas and old dead beliefs, and
This is why Jung observed that the greatest burden the child must bear is the unlived life of the parent.
Whenever a young person encounters trauma, they react to it and they also repeat it. Modeling has elements of identifying with the aggressor. In modeling, you don’t resist the dysfunctional mores of your family—you reenact them.
The great teachers understand that where we come from affects where we go, and that what sits unresolved in our past influences our present. They know that our parents are important, regardless of whether they are good at parenting or not. There’s no way around it: The family story is our story. Like it or not, it resides within us. Regardless of t
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