How to Unf*ck Your Life

I personally like to think of self-development as an endless series of problems that, once solved, increase in meaning and complexity, making life more interesting as you solve them.

Since the majority of you are in stages blue through green, and since we are focused on our personal lives, these will almost always involve the big 3:

• Work

• Health

• R

Your life feels terrible because your mind is filled with beliefs that interpret it as terrible.

But here’s the truth that psychology points to:

You’re in the perfect position to change your life.

Meaning, when you understand what stage you’re in and the exact “conditions” you need to make progress, what seems impossible now becomes inevitable.

Your mind literally reconstructs how it processes reality.

that human value systems or worldviews (which influence how we interpret the world and make decisions… in other words, our operating system for reality) evolves through stages in an upward spiral.

These stages are the structure of how we think.

Each of us as individuals move up the spiral as we age and develop ourselves.

But this doesn’t only apply to

Your values—beliefs, standards, points of reference, or other elements of identity—shape what is important to you and what is worth noticing.

when you understand what stage you’re in and the exact “conditions” you need to make progress, what seems impossible now becomes inevitable.

Your mind literally reconstructs how it processes reality.

I can give you examples and processes, but if you don’t have the ability to understand where you are and who you are, those won’t serve you much.

The path will be confusing.

It’s not supposed to make sense just yet.

When you’re doing something new, you aren’t supposed to be anything other than lost because you’re flailing in the middle of the ocean un

Ken Wilber’s Wake up, Clean up, Grow up framework for human development.

Wake up meaning becoming aware of your true nature beyond the ego—accessing states of consciousness beyond ordinary waking awareness.

Clean up meaning psychological healing through shadow work—addressing unconscious or repressed aspects of yourself that are causing unnecessary

The self.

The strange loop of us thinking about our own consciousness in relation to others.