How to Stay Sane (The School of Life)

No one likes to feel vulnerable16 but unless we learn to tolerate some emotional vulnerability we will be endangering our growth, and if we do not grow we shrink – and if we do that we jeopardize our sanity.

The topics are: i) Appreciations; ii) New Information; iii) Questions; iv) Complaints with Recommendations for Change; and v) Wishes, Hopes and Dreams.

sometimes a new behaviour feels false or unreal but is merely unfamiliar. In my experience what ‘feels’ true might not actually be the truth, or good for us; it might merely be familiar. And, conversely, what feels ‘false’ might not be; it might just be new.

Therefore we need to be self-aware. What stories are we telling ourselves about other people? What dynamic do our stories suck us into, and how do they determine the meanings we put on things and how we define them?

Good stress causes new neural connections. It is what we need for personal development and growth.

If we are our emotions, rather than an observer of them, we will veer into a chaotic state.

This is what learning does. It gives us more things to think about so we have less time to get bored, depressed and under-stimulated.

1, I take from the world 2, I make it my own 3, I give back to the world 4, I come back to myself

Remember, the idea is not to fight, and a good relationship is not about determining who is right and who is wrong.