If you stop, then first take a minute to be sure you can get back the step you just got on your problem.

Stay cheerfully detached from them as much as you can. “Well, except for all of these, I’m fine,” you can now say. It might be an awful list but that is all.

They seem to feel guilty about feeling good, even briefly.

“What would come, in my body, if this problem were somehow all solved?” Whatever your mind answers, you wait until you sense what comes in your body. Then you let that be for a little while.

They feel it is their duty to feel bad incessantly as long as the problem is unsolved.

A successful focusing step usually gives a much better, truer understanding of what has been wrong.

Just getting in touch with one’s feelings often brings no change, just the same feeling over and over. One must let a larger, wider, unclear felt sense form.

The body knows what its own right state feels like and is constantly checking and adjusting its processes to stay as close to that state as possible.

Focusing, by contrast, is optimistic. It is based on the very positive expectation of change. It doesn’t envision a human being as a fixed structure whose shape can be analyzed once and for