Figure That Shift Out

Perhaps you have trouble getting to a place where you feel. For a lot of us, we feel numb. We have conditioned ourselves through some sort of habit or practice—you could call it an addiction or compulsion—and we have developed patterns of shutting down what we feel. Typically, an addiction is behavior that spirals out of control because an ever-big

The hills of life come. A lot of us stuff those questions down. Then things usually start to crack apart as if life is trying to seize our attention. Instead of taking time to pay attention to the key questions, we usually try some distracting intervention. A new relationship, a new purchase, or an off-the-wall decision hides the fact we’re graspin

Pay attention to how you’re processing your life. Reframe. No more proving or hiding.

While I was sitting on the deck, I resolved: “I am separate from the events that are happening to me. I’m not defined by them. I am more than this leader who feels like he’s failing, this husband who feels like he’s failing, and this father who feels like he’s failing.”

This is the person who is needy at work, trying to get constant assurance that they’re seen and known for who they are. They prove they belong by referencing what they have been doing with others or they hide in the corner afraid to engage and be further left out.

Rather than building habits we enjoy we are using the false energy of fear to hype ourselves into regimented change.

Eventually you will gain deep clarity on what that one fear is for you and you will recognize proving and hiding in the small moments.

If you believe this fear about yourself, you will prove to people how they need you.

Downshifting isn’t just important when we’re driving uphill. The highest performing drivers in the world use downshifting all the time. They downshift to accelerate momentum in sharp turns and to navigate in and out of heavy traffic. They also downshift to save wear and tear on their brakes.