“I’m going to have to settle for being treated this way. I deserve it.”

There’s no place where you can let go and rest and know you are taken care of.

whatever it is we need to identify what we run to for comfort when we feel afraid. Most people aren’t even aware that they’re running to it. As we become aware and stop running to it, the pain comes to the surface and we can process it.

Find someone you can talk to about what’s happening, someone who you don’t have to posture and pretend with.

When you face that kind of humiliation, you have to learn who you are. On those hills of life you have to shift into first gear, and if you don’t, you’re stuck.

An insecure leader whose idea is called “stupid” will either try to shut down the criticism or run from it; proving or hiding. Instead, I paid attention to what was happening inside of me and what was happening in the room. I was aware and learning.

Am I worth more as a human being if we stay in our house? Am I worth less as a human being if we have to leave our house? I pictured us leaving. I pictured us staying. I felt the failure of the eviction and noticed the emotions. I mentally pushed myself to imagine the worst and best scenario. Mentally, I contrasted the negative and positive to see

Shame is when you feel like you will never have a place where you are accepted and can feel at home. We have an image we want to project (the first voice) because this internal narrative of shame (the second voice) is driving us. The image we want to project by proving or hiding isn’t who we really are. The driving narration of shame isn’t who we a

You want to learn to not deny or be dominated by your feelings. You want to learn to use them as energy and clues.