Emotional Sensitivity and Intensity: How to manage intense emotions as a highly sensitive person - learn more about yourself with this life-changing self help book (Teach Yourself)

You may feel unable to reclaim your identity as a gifted person because of the social stereotype that the gifted are somehow above everyone. That is not the case; owning your giftedness is not about arrogance, but rather the need to be congruent with your capabilities, values, and place in this world.

These children show superior ability to think about global ideas like justice and fairness. Being so intensely aware of world issues and the feelings of others can make them vulnerable to being overwhelmed. In addition, they have to face adult reactions that do not meet their expectations. For example, they may want to help the poor and homeless by

Gifted people are global and sophisticated thinkers, who have a unique psychological structure. They possess a greater capacity and thirst for knowledge and discovery, experience enhanced sensual stimuli, and feel a full range of emotions to an immensely deep level.

Last but not least, the gifted have an intense moral commitment to bettering the world. They want to address the injustice they see and are frustrated with inequality in humanity.

As you remember these experiences, notice how you feel on a visceral level. A cognitive recounting will not suffice, unless it is connected strongly to a bodily feeling, because your memories were stored in your body on a cellular level. The challenge is to find the accurate sense of feeling but not necessarily a storyline. Truly grieving involves

Uncovering what lies underneath your past can seem threatening, but false tranquillity upheld by a facade of ‘okay-ness’ is fragile and short-lived. In the end, self-deception is toxic; unmourned pains and unspoken words can only lie dormant for so long.

They may feel compelled to point out the truth, or feel unable to play ‘the game’.

In other words, severe difficulty in emotional regulation is not a direct result of being born intense, but a result of two combining factors: 1 Being born with heightened sensitivity and a gift in perceptivity. 2 Living in a deficient childhood environment that fails to meet emotional needs.

Remember that true intimacy is only achieved when you can allow the other person to be exactly as they are. The more your mind is preoccupied with how things should be, the more tension you will feel, and the more distance you create between you.