Your outs will give you more confidence to take risks. Some possible Level Three outs might include (say them confidently with a smile): •You can’t blame a guy for trying. •Take it as a compliment. •That’s okay, when you drop your boyfriend next week, give me a call. •Don’t worry, I won’t tell your husband if you don’t. •You won’t be able to get me

Anxiety management focuses on trying to control people, situations, and things outside of you. In contrast, soothing anxiety is an internal process. Self-soothing is calming the anxiety inside of you instead of trying to manage events outside of you. It involves you consciously leaning into fear while calming yourself from within. Managing anxiety

Approach tends to be adolescent in nature (even when we try to convince ourselves it isn’t). The ego-based attachment behind approach is shallow: you typically want to engage with a woman for one primary reason – her looks. While it is normal to be attracted to young and/or attractive women, using a woman’s physical appearance as your primary reaso

The initial date should always be on a weekday (any time) or Sunday afternoon. Never, ever plan a first date on one of the prime date nights (Friday & Saturday). You don’t want to leave the impression that you have nothing to do on these nights besides have coffee with a woman you don’t know.

In most social situations, your mind will do this in a split second. Unfortunately, your mind can’t tell the difference between real and perceived outcomes. It treats them all the same and believes they are all equally possible. Your mind creates its own reality based on what it can imagine. These imagined outcomes are often influenced by SLBs and

Here is one of the most important truths of successful dating: You probably won’t risk getting in if you are not sure you can get out. This is why learning to be a good ender is so essential to successful dating – both in terms of having the courage to initiate and having the courage to break up with a woman who isn’t your RGW.

Here is what I’ve found over and over again from women of all ages and backgrounds. A woman wants: •A man she can trust. •A man who makes her feel secure. •A man who can set the tone and take the lead. •A man who has passion. •A man who can make her laugh. •An intelligent man (not just analytical). •A man who is generous and compassionate. •A man w

In 2007, I launched four, four-week online Dating Essentials for Men courses. These courses were a compilation of what I had learned through trial and error and a lot of fucking practice. The courses became an instant success because they offered a breath of fresh air from programs that teach men to be cocky/funny, spin plates, or use canned pickup

In reality, Dating Essentials for Men is about expanding your social and emotional intelligence – I just use men’s desire to get laid and find love as the motivation for helping them grow up and become interesting people.