collapse, posturing and composure - Marketing For Hippies

The Third Alternative – Composure:

We are naturally drawn to composed people because there’s an old truth that where we speak from we speak to. If you speak from a collapsed place in yourself – you speak to that place in others. If you speak from a place of posturing in you – you will hit that place in others. Neither of those places feel at ease in people and so folks will feel une... See more

Much of the mainstream business world is full of posturing. Most of the holistic and conscious world is full of collapsing.So many people though, seem to try to find a middle ground between collapsing and posturing. I want to suggest that the answer isn’t in the middle. It’s above. If you can imagine collapsing and posturing as end points on a sing... See more

In fact, it’s worse than that. There’s a deep shame about even having needs in the first place.Consequently, collapsing is a lack of self care because every ounce of our energy is being spent on doing whatever we think is most likely to get us the love of others. Collapse is based on a core feeling of not being enough and trying to do enough so tha... See more

Composure isn’t confidence as much as comfort in our own skin. We’re not leaning forward or back, we’re sitting up straight and comfortably inside of ourselves. This is the ground of win/win. We are committed to everybody’s needs being met – including our own.

Neither or these work very well or feel very satisfying.

Collapsing is a caving in of the shoulders and a slump forward.And it’s driven by an agenda. The hidden agenda of collapsing is “Love me”. We want people to love us and so we sell out our self respect and integrity. What we don’t know when we’re stuck in it is that this is profoundly unattractive. At its extremes it’s repulsive.Fundamentally, colla... See more

Posturing is the other side of the coin.Posturing is when we puff ourselves up and try to seem more successful and confident than we actually are.Posturers talk a good game. They talk a lot about their big goals and visions for the future. It can be incredibly enticing. But usually nothing happens. Because to make big things happen, they need to pl... See more

I find that in life – and certainly in business – people vacillate between two poles – two ends of a line – on one side there’s collapse and on the other side there’s posturing.